How to make things better with your bestie
Sometimes “Best Friends Forever” doesn’t end up as a forever relationship. People grow and change and drift apart. Often friend breakups are as difficult, if not more so, than romantic partings. This means we lean towards wanting to make amends. However, actually finding a way to make it happen… Well that’s a challenge.
Women like to gather a close knit “girl group” who they share their deepest darkest secrets with and this makes for a very heartsore breakup if it happens. The bonds are more intimate and therefore more explosive.
So, how do you settle things?
Well, firstly, settling things doesn’t necessarily mean reuniting. Sometimes it means calmly approaching the reason or the fall out and deciding to part ways. Some things don’t last forever and that’s okay. But before you have a chat or engage in anyway rather let everything calm down. You know that old adage of “don’t make any big decisions while you’re angry”? Well it applies to this specific situation.
Once some time and space has been had you can call a meeting and have a chat. Because of the time lapsed you are more likely to keep your cool. You can reflect on what has happened and together in a mature manner try and sort through how to move forward. Things were said, and feelings were hurt. But we can forgive many things and put it down a flared temper.
Before you meet up, prepare yourself for anything
Don’t expect an apology, even if you still feel they’re in the wrong. Remember, people won’t apologise sincerely for what they plan on repeating. Essentially you need to decide that, whether you receive an apology or not, you’ll have to cope with your bestie’s flaws if you want to remain besties. So be prepared. There might be an onslaught and barrage of finger-pointing, there might be tears but whatever is coming your way, you’ll be best to accept it gracefully.
If you want to make-up and not break-up get out of your comfort zone
If you decided that the last “F” in BFF does in fact stand for “forever” then after your chat, make some plans. One of the most exciting things to do is go on a road trip. It takes you away from life as you know it. You’ll be nicely distracted and engaged with your new surroundings and you’ll make brand new exciting memories together. Plus, it’s not the commitment and stress of an overseas vacation which can be stressful, costly and will certainly be longer than a long weekend. By going on a road trip you get quality alone time but for a limited amount of time. And if she happens to suggest that you road trip in her brand-spanking new Mercedes then for heaven sake’s don’t have a fit because you wanted the comfort of your pre-owned car.