How to keep your sibling out of your closet
While some things make sense to share, there are those that can create conflict. It’s okay to share cupboard space and drawers. For some it may even be okay to use the same hair dryer.
The problem comes when you see your sibling in the T-shirt that’s from your drawer. You’ve let it slide a few times, but now it’s becoming a habit. The worst would be to buy a new pair of ladies shoes, only to find that your sibling is already wearing it.
Before you decide to take revenge, take a moment to think about the following while squeezing a stress-ball. Ask yourself these questions to determine the kind of action you need to take.
How much does it bother you?
Does them wearing your clothes bother, annoy or anger you? Don’t tell yourself that you’re “supposed” to feel a certain way about it. Some may not care that their siblings are wearing their clothes, but if it bothers you, then be honest with yourself about it. Determine if their actions are a big deal to you or not. If your friends seem irritated by it but you don’t mind, then that’s okay too.
Is it becoming a habit or are there exceptions?
Your sibling might have been in a hurry and accidentally spilled something on themselves. They hurriedly grabbed your jacket before running out the door. Or do they tend to wear your clothes thrice a week and now you’re sick of it. Determine whether or not wearing your clothes are out of unforeseen circumstances or whether it has become a habit of theirs. In the case where it becomes a habit, you should confront your sibling about taking your clothes.
Is it a personal item or something general?
Perhaps they’ve had on a jacket that your significant other gave to you and you don’t want anyone else wearing it. You may be okay with them borrowing your items, but if you feel uncomfortable about a special item that can’t be borrowed then speak up. Your sibling might not know the value you assign to everything so be clear about what is okay to borrow and what isn’t.
What is putting you off about the situation?
Does it bother you that your sibling took something that you explicitly told them not to take? Is it the fact that they take without your permission? Are you bothered that they never return what they borrow, whereby you always need to ask for it or take it out of their drawer? If you are able to determine what aspect of their behaviour bugs you the most, you’ll be better able to address the real issue at hand.